I'm glad you and hubby are getting back on track. That is great news.
I do feel like I should address a couple of minor points, lest they ever jump up and bite you in the future.
As to the looks or sexual preferences of people, and their predilection toward an affair, don't give them any weight whatsoever. People can and will do anything, with anyone, given the right circumstances.
Example. A long time friend of mine left his wife and family for a lesbian activist. Eventually they married, and are now quite unhappy.
In my pre-married days, I had a number of lesbian 'friends'. Just because someone is gay, doesn't preclude them from enjoying both sides of the gender pool.
The appearance mismatch of affair partners is legend. It happens so often that it is considered normal.
Don't be taken aback by my musings. It sounds like you and hubby are in a good place. I do think that both of you should discuss all of the concerns you had, and his as well, openly and honestly.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
