Things appear to be in a strange dynamic since you returned from your trip. You are putting down more boundaries and your W is confused. Perhaps she is getting the impression that you have had enough? I ask because of her asking you recently "what is wrong with you?" and also from her trying to consign your memories to the dumpster (Re the latter, is that just her attempt to purge herself of physical reminders of something she cannot flush her psyche of?). I have been in this dynamic several times already and the dust usually settles after a couple of weeks. But I am just wondering if your W needs some reassurance that you are still "there" in a non-pursuing way. An act of unconditional giving that is not too imposing maybe? Kind of like a "hit and run"? Oh, maybe Wes can give you pointers on that...
You are doing an admirable job of maintaining yoru PMA through all of this.
UD
The 3 laws of DBing:
1. PMA is critical to DBing.
2. Since drop in WAW's PMA leads to drop in LBS's PMA and vice-versa detachment is critical.
3. Validate to raise WAW's PMA and GAL to raise LBS's.
