Thanks, Kevin, Yep, I plan to rest up, get over this cold and get going with my work/business stuff, and rev up the GAL work again. Patience.
Had a mixed phone call with W last night. We talked about our work overlap, with W acknowledging no difficulty working together despite our recent D. Not sure how to take this, as I saw her flinch twice this week seeing me come down the hallway. Mere bravado on the phone?
We talked about S5, with W bristling about me not paying for yet more summer camps (I've shelled out about $1000 for afterschool/summer camps so far - all her legal responsibility. There were no thanks from her for any of this). But I do feel the need for her to taste single parenthood more fully. Not in a manipulative way, but in a manner where I'm not going to try to buy her back. Doesn't work - she doesn't seem to appreciate that.
Early in my sitch, there was a general impression that she needed to experience life and grow as a person. Having had a very controlling mother, and reporting me as controlling, she saw the need to be her own person. Well, I've been undoing that a bit by stepping in and buying her relief from house-cleaning etc...
On my part, I need to sit tight and clear this head of mine.
