Wes and UD, I like the suggestion of softpedaling my boundary-setting with clear compliments of her mothering. She does need to start facing the reality of her choices. And I'm likely only earning scorn from her for helping her financially.
DejaVu, I like your emphasis on improving our communicatino skills - hopefully after things cool a bit. I noticed that I have really slipped in terms of listening.
Jo, I do need to accept that her different way of parenting, including her different values regarding others watching S5, except if/when she places him in danger. Outside of a headcold, my PMA is good, actually. I feel really solid about myself, but angry at her, while not really having a desire to be with her - at least not as she currently is. I've noticed a WA attitude in me since my return, but lying low/going dark is probably the very thing I need to do to clear my head and rethink things. I need to find a balance that includes peace toward her again.
Your reminder of her huge gift of love in S5 moved me. That is a 'forever' gift, and I will think about that tonight regarding my sitch.
