You're being judgemental of her parenting again. I feel it in most of your posts which is why I mentioned 'competition'.
She is a different person to you and she will parent differently from you. Your son will get different qualities from each of you BECAUSE you are different.
Becoming the mother of your child was her greatest declaration of love for YOU. Don't hold it against her. Okay, so the babysitting incident was bad but she dealt with it and she's learning from mistakes.
My dd2 ran off in a shopping centre once and I couldn't find her. DD3 also ran in the road when she was 3, after she was playing at a neighbour's house. I stopped her from playing round there when the other mother wouldn't supervise them properly.
These things happen. You will drive her crazy and hurt her by continually picking at her parenting skills.
I would be with my X now if it weren't for his inflexible approach to child rearing. Don't let your son, who is the cement between you, cause disagreements.
Re the finances, I agree with you on the money side of it. Maybe if you had just stated 'we are divorced now so I don't feel comfortable paying for your activities' - full stop, rather than an argument on her choices etc.
I agree your money is yours, but likewise, her choices are hers.
I would just stay 'dark' for a while and wait for it to cool own.
I think your expections of going away were too high and you expected her to magically miss you on your return and then because the sitch was still the same, you are now upset and down and losing your PMA.
Try to distance yourself and zero your expectations. I do think you are doing the right thing, not agreeing to everything she wants. She will just think you are a doormat if you continue that. I don't do everything X wants. He rang me tonight and asked me to call him back and I didn't.
Glad to see you are dream journalling. I am too, and have had some really interesting ones, but don't want to mention them online, LOL!
