Following up on Dogma, limits and boundaries versus unconditional love is a very difficult line to draw.
I guess it goes to the motivation. If you are doing something because you want to and you see it as a true act of charity that brings joy to your heart, regardless of the other's reaction, then it's an act of love. If you're doing it to win someone over, then you've probably crossed the proper boundary. Moreover, if you feel charitable, there are lots of needy people, especially kids, who may make better use of what we have to offer than our WAS's--but I think I may be opening a can of worms here.
