Same situation with my WAW. D3 stays with her overnights (I decided this because I dont want D3 to experience the instability of staying in two places and she needs her mom more than she needs me at night). But we co-parent. When WAW has her she tries to spend the time with friends or acquaintances (so the parenting is not heavy). When I have her (this is the case for men I think, we cant just call a buddy and say, "hey wanna get kids together and hang out?")I give 100% os time to D3. I have let the WAW take advantage of me financially for the past two years. And boy, has she spent money lik crazy! Typical MLC stuff. And she is not a wee bit thankful or anything about my being generous with her about money. Sometimes I feel so used.
I dont know Gabe, If your purpose is to protect S5 and tell her that she is wont to take umbrage because she may feel that you are questioning her mothering instincts and skills. On the other hand, if you let her know that you are hard-up on money now and cant afford it, then she may question whether you have changed (I recall vaguely that money was an issue with you guys). As usual it is a tight situation. You may want to think about what reason you want to present to her.
UD
The 3 laws of DBing:
1. PMA is critical to DBing.
2. Since drop in WAW's PMA leads to drop in LBS's PMA and vice-versa detachment is critical.
3. Validate to raise WAW's PMA and GAL to raise LBS's.
