I guess my sitch is different from the norm, then. My X got sexually distant for a few weeks before the 'bomb' but then after the bomb his desire was normal and mine sky rocketed because sex was a comfort thing to me and at the time it was the only time he was nice to me.
So it was still about 3 times a week post-bomb.

When he moved out it dropped to once a week because we were living in different towns and you don't see someone as much if they're not under the same roof.

I had a new baby and we ML only 1 week after she was born. When she was 5 weeks old he said he wanted to get back together but then got scared again, so we had 3 months of abstinance and he started up the court stuff.

Then we DID get back together for 7 months during which time the ML was every day and more than once, basically any time we got chance when the kids were at school etc or the baby was asleep.
It was like a sexual revolution to me as it was tons better than it the marriage and we did loads of stuff we never did in the marriage.

Then of course the same thing happened, cold feet, so then we had a whole YEAR of abstinance after which point he changed his mind again.

This time around it's been 2 months of abstinance but when he says he wants me back again, which he will, I am saying no.

I'm going to try out the 'no' approach this time around and see if that is more effective.

Jo.