Well, I'm not sure what romance would attract me that would be applicable in our situations, but I do know what turns me OFF, so I'll list irritating behaviour that has put me off my bloke:

1. Him saying he'll call me and then he doesn't and so I call and he says 'I was just about to call you' - arrgghhh!!

2. Complaining that I don't call him when he doesn't call me.

3. Assuming he knows everything about me.

4. Thinking he is always the better parent than me (this infuriates me about a lot of fathers, not just him).

5. Expecting me to drop everything last minute for him but he doesn't like it if I have plans.

6. Sending me all these emails on 'personal development' and actually thinking that is NICE. Arrrghhh!!!

7. Coming round and asking me if I tidied up before he got there, when it is nearly always this tidy.

8. Never returning DD4 in the same clothes she went in so I lose things I paid for at his house.

9. Complimenting me on my clothes/appearance etc whilst running out of the front door. TEASE. All words and no action is as annoying as hell.

10. Talking to me in this quiet tone of voice when we are disagreeing on something (like he would a 5 year old).

11. Looking on my cell phone without asking, going in my bedroom without asking, reading my DIARY without asking - ARRGGHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

12. Putting his friends, his mum and everyone else before me, being continually late, but God help me if I am late.

Stuff he did in the marriage that switched me off:

1. Watch football on TV right after ML.
2. Tell me how to look after DD's but then put baby's dress on back to front.
3. Smoking dope in front of me.
4. Having millions of criminal friends.
5. Letting the inlaws bully me and never telling his mother to leave me alone.
6. Leaving his shoes on the floor when I just tidied up.
7. Taking the duvet off me in the morning and putting the NEWS on blaring loud at 7am.
8. Walking in on me when I'm on the toilet and just talking like it's totally normal to talk to someone whilst on the toilet.
9. Wiping his face with a dirty T-shirt instead of a face cloth.
10. Leaving his underwear all over the floor.
11. Complaining when he ran out of clothes because I hadn't washed any - yet because I made him vaccum the carpet he didn't like that.
12. Thinking his job was better than mine because he earnt more money.
13. Leaving facial hairs in the sink.
14. Not getting up at night to help me with baby because he had to go to work.

Just never do any of the above and you will reconcile immediately, LOL.

Jo.