Yep, Wes - I think there is a bit of that - W wanting me to let my hair down a bit as well. In fact, her trying to surf (deathly afraid of the ocean in our M) was a clear message that she condoned my return to surfing and my voiced intention to teach S5. She's also be positive about my other efforts to grow/do non-adult/work things, like take up guitar again.
I see how she'd have fewer options for friends amoung other women who are likely married or with kids, as she's trying to do s/t different than that. I'm thankful she's not diving into a crowd of rowdy divorcee's right away, as I'm not sure how well I'd do with an OM in the sitch.
UD, your reminder that W is trusting me by voicing her insecurities was huge.
I have to guard against this negative/worry spin of her behavior (and stop analyzing it so much). Jo, maybe this was what you were getting at regarding the judgmental air of my posts about her.
