Good on you for holding your tongue. BTW, I think your expectations are too high. She's not going to change suddenly because you went on holiday.
I lived in Florida for a while whilst separated and it didn't make a difference to the sitch. He was the same Andy when I returned - although he did say he missed me and followed me round the house like a puppy.
I also think that you sometimes come across as a bit judgemental to your W in your posts and I wonder if she feels this? Don't take this wrong, but maybe this exentuates her low self-esteem.
I just get the impression there is a competition going on between the two of you and some of your reactions about S5 remind me of Andy (not that I think you would run me over with your car ).
Re her younger friends, it isn't age that counts - it's what's in your heart and if you have a kind heart it doesn't matter if you are 5 or 90.
My best female friend is 41 this year (13 years older than me) and I am also friends with her MIL and have tea with her sometimes, and she's 85! I consider her one of my friends even though she was born in 1920.
I have spoken to some 14 year old's who have more sense than 30 year old's I know.
Sorry for the slight lecture but as a woman, it came across as you thinking you are better and more sensible than your W.
X does it all the time and sends me all these emails on 'personal responsibility' - it's SO patronizing and makes me want to print off the email and shove it up his arse
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