You do sound like you concentrate on the purely physical aspect 75% if not more. If this is how it comes across to your W, that will push her away....that will turn her off....that will not accompilsh your goal.
Take a look at your behavior....for that matter, take a look at your past posts on here....there's a definite pattern. You come across very forcefully on here....with quite a bit of anger/hostility/resentment/entitlement. If your W senses ANY of this she will back away from you rather than come nearer to you. I would find it very hard to believe this doesn't come through in your personal life with her.
