Quote: Otoh, if it doesn't bother you, then maybe it is borrowing trouble.In my opinion, if a person's intent is mean then it doesn't really matter if the hit was solid or the words did the trick, they need to be called on it regardless
I don't think his intent was "mean" exactly. I think his intent was the same as the intent of a three-year-old who is kicking his legs and screaming "I hate you, Mommy!". He was more out of control than trying to control me. I think he gets hurt more when he behaves this way than I do. He can't stand to be someone who behaves like that so he has the tendency to think along the lines of "I can't stay married to a woman who makes me act like that.". Therefore, you are probably right that I should try to limit this kind of behavior. I did leave the room this weekend but he followed me around. I guess I could have left but I don't always come up with great boundary ideas when I need them. Even if I manage to hold on to myself pretty well, I'm usually a bit stunned.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
