Quote: I realize that for too much of my marriage I have viewed sex in just the opposite way - too often I want to feel good BEFORE sex in order to even think about doing it. That leads to all kinds of LD behavior that has been described by many on this BB
I think that is a very common LD thought pattern. On a few occasions, my H has said "Sex should be a celebration" in order to explain his POV. That sounds like something that someone who was HD should agree with but since what he really means is that sex should be reserved for special occasions when everything is going just great, I have to disagree. IMO this is like thinking that because you celebrate good times with food you shouldn't eat just any old time. The famine, famine, famine, famine, feast plan just doesn't work for many of us.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
