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LOL. If the results come back normal, he is not through yet: hand him a referral to a shrink's office.




I made a strong stand for that years ago. He was diagnosed with dysthymia but none of the anti-depressants he's taken over the years have helped much with his low libido and he really doesn't seem particularly depressed recently. He's quite cheerful while watching NASCAR or playing games with the kids or eating gourmet meals, he just gets grumpy when the terrible pressure of having sex when he's not really in the mood oppresses him.

Sometimes I really feel like I'm at a disadvantage in dealing with my sich due to the fact that I have never been LD because despite everything I've learned since I've been on this BB, I still don't really "get it". Last night my H initiated sex with me out of the blue on a work night. This is totally unprecedented. Afterwards, I had to ask him what the deal was and he said he thought he was in the mood because he was hopeful that getting some testosterone treatment was going to be helpful. I guess he was experiencing some sort of conscious, before-you-even-take-the-pill placebo effect. I am baffled.

Another thing that happened this weekend was my H told me that he found me boring to be around because it was obvious that all I was interested in doing was having sex. I pretty much lost it when he said this and yelled "Well, maybe if you f*cked me regularly I could take an interest in something else!" and I added "How interested in various recreational activities would you be if, for instance, you hadn't had anything to eat for 10 hours?" and also "Besides, I'm not the one who doesn't want to go out and do anything. Yeah, I'm bored hanging out with you a lot of the time because all you seem to want to do is watch TV.". The funny thing is I ended up "winning" this "Who is the more boring partner argument" even though my H is the one who started it and somehow it resulted in my H agreeing to go see the Rolling Stones in concert with me later this summer. I'm beginning to get the feeling that we are going to end up having to resolve every other possible issue in our marriage before we finally get the sex issue licked.

"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver