Actually the porn didn't "work" for him, so I had to take matters "in hand". This is the kind of thing that makes me think that maybe he really does have low testosterone. It's not ED because he got hard pretty much instantly once I handled him and had no problem staying hard afterwards. I actually asked him what was going on as I was handling him and he indicated that it felt good but it was as if it wasn't really attached to the rest of his body or his mind. Though, as usual, once he was a bit more into the action, I could tell he was fully involved. This is the thing that continues to make me most crazy about my situation- we really do have quite hot, raunchy, passionate, connected sex a great deal of the time once my H gets both of his heads together so I simply do not and can not understand why he doesn't want to "rinse and repeat" as soon as possible. I saw the movie "51 First Dates" this weekend, in which the couple keep meeting over and over because the woman has short-term memory loss. I wonder if it's possible to have short-term sexual memory loss and that is what my H's problem is? That would mean that my dilemma is how in the f*ck do I remind him that he actually does enjoy it.
Quote: What's the matter, are his hands too busy with the VCR remote that he can't dial a phone? Sorry, but this is enabling behavior on your part. Him asking you to take care of making the appointment tells me a lot about his level of commitment to working on this part of the relationship. What else are you going to do, mommy?
I had similar thoughts. That is why I am worried that he will consider normal test results to be a good "cop-out". But, the fact that I have already considered this gives me time to prepare for this eventuality and OTOH maybe he does have low testosterone and he'll get a prescription and I'll be able to join HDSoCal's tales of chemical success thread.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
Actually the porn didn't "work" for him, so I had to take matters "in hand". This is the kind of thing that makes me think that maybe he really does have low testosterone. It's not ED because he got hard pretty much instantly once I handled him and had no problem staying hard afterwards. I actually asked him what was going on as I was handling him and he indicated that it felt good but it was as if it wasn't really attached to the rest of his body or his mind. Though, as usual, once he was a bit more into the action, I could tell he was fully involved. This is the thing that continues to make me most crazy about my situation- we really do have quite hot, raunchy, passionate, connected sex a great deal of the time once my H gets both of his heads together so I simply do not and can not understand why he doesn't want to "rinse and repeat" as soon as possible. I saw the movie "51 First Dates" this weekend, in which the couple keep meeting over and over because the woman has short-term memory loss. I wonder if it's possible to have short-term sexual memory loss and that is what my H's problem is? That would mean that my dilemma is how in the f*ck do I remind him that he actually does enjoy it. 
