Quote: Right now we are working on just having sex w/o triggering a UTI.
I gotta say recurrent UTIs would probably make me LD too. Once when I was searching around for other sites that discuss SSMs, I encountered an anecdote from a woman who described herself as someone who naturally has a "normal" sex drive of about 2 or 3x a week. She got into a relationship with a man with whom she had sex approximately 5x a day every day for around 5 years. By the end of the relationship she had constant raging UTIs. After the relationship ended she didn't want any sex for a year.
I also recently read a book which described a horror story SSM at the other end of the spectrum. John Ruskin was a 19th century art critic/writer. He was know for his prudery. He courted a young girl from her early teens and married her once she was of age. They were both virgins when they married. On their wedding night he was unable to function because he believed that female genitalia was supposed to look like it does on classical marble statues. He informed his young wife who was completely ignorant of sexual matters that her genitalia was deformed and that was why he was unable to have sex with her. Many years went by until finally his young wife summoned up the courage to speak to an older female friend about her "deformity". Her friend told her she was normal and eventually she sued Ruskin for divorce on the grounds of impotence.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
