hairdog said: ------------------- I've lost my libido, and my W and the MC have diagnosed me with adult ADD. I see my doctor tomorrow. -------------------
Okay. So, your wife has no libido because you aren't paying attention to her for more than 15 seconds at a stretch.
HD, if your wife were banging you brainless, your attention span toward her would improve remarkably, and over night, no drugs needed.
Time to look for a new marriage counselor. This one is grasping at straws.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
I doubt you have Adult ADD. As you may remember, I started to worry that maybe I had it last summer. I think being married to a detail-oriented, critical, picky person can make you feel like you have ADD when maybe you're just a bit absent-minded and messy. The psychiatrist I went to pretty much ruled it out because there's no such thing as adult-onset ADD. If you have ADD, you had it as a child and it's lingering into adulthood. If you learned to read at a reasonable age, it's unlikely that you had it, though I'm sure you can find someone who will diagnose you as having it and add a few more $$ to the pharmaceutical companies coffers. Weren't you already on anti-depressants? These can make anyone into a gumby-head. I remember once when my H was on Prozac he just wandered off like a 4 year old when we were all at an amusement park.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
<soapbox> I'm convinced that most kids diagnosed with it don't have it either, rather they are just suffering from a lack of discipline from parents who'd rather be their friends than be their parents. My wife's cousins kids are a prime example. They are out of control. Mom and doc say the kids have ADD, which becomes nothing more than an excuse for poor parenting. We had the kids for a month a while back while Mom underwent treatment for a very aggressive breast cancer. It took us about a week to get the kids under control, and then they behaved just like ours or any other 'normal' kid. It only took a few days back with their Mom and Dad before they went back to having "ADD". I put very very little stock in this whole ADD thing. Saw lots of "ADD" kids come through W's parents home (they were foster parents), and wouldn't you know it, every one of them shaped up if given a bit of loving discipline. </soapbox>
I gotta agree with the others on this one... how did you get through law school if you've got ADD?
I also agree that too many kids are diagnosed with this. It's a catchall-- sometimes for poor parenting, sometimes for poor diet, and I'm sure, for other things, too. My stepgrandson has been on ritalin for forever. When I go to their house, I hardly ever see that kid put anything in his mouth except candy or pizza. There probably are some legitimate cases of it, but probably not as many as are labeled.
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Quote: According to the DEA, the number of prescriptions written for Ritalin since 1991 has increased by a factor of five (2.2 million) and about 80 percent of the 11 million prescriptions written for Ritalin are to “treat” ADHD. This means that nearly 9 million children have been prescribed the cocainelike “medication.”
Well, I'm hoping that the doctor prescribes brainless banging, but I'm doubtful. I don't want to hijack JJ's thread, and I'm not ready to start my own, so let's let this one cook a bit longer.
Thanks for all the views about ADD and whether I...hey, look at that bird!
Things have been going pretty well around the Wildebube household lately, so I haven’t written much, but I have to weigh in on this one. D13 is ADD (not ADHD) and is on Ritalin. She also suffers from Tourett’s, but that’s another story.
I’m very much opposed to drugging kids and heartily agree with the things GGB and Lil have said. I seriously doubt that ANY of you are more averse to drugging kids than I am. I absolutely believe that the vast majority of hyperactive/ADD/ADHD kids are nothing more than victims of bad/lazy parenting and are being drugged into submission because it’s convenient and removes any element of blame from the parents. But having said that, Ritalin has been a miracle drug for D13.
Even in the face of a diagnosis resulting from extensive testing at the Scottish Rite Hospital in Dallas, I just couldn’t put her on drugs. I finally wavered when the adult son of a friend talked to me about it. He started Ritalin at age 15 and told me that it was the best thing his parents had ever done for him. He said that for the first time in his life, he was able to do his school work. It was the first time he felt able to control his mind. I was still against it, but I agreed to try it for a short time – with the understanding that I would discontinue it if either I, or D, didn’t feel like it was helping.
She started on it thirteen months ago and she is a changed person. Her grades went from C’s mixed with an occasional B or D, and literally hours and hours of homework, to a pretty even mix of A’s and B’s with homework usually finished by the time I get home from work. She went from being a complete social outcast with zero – ZERO – friends, to being a normal kid.
So while I agree with everything that’s been said, that these “disorders” are way over-diagnosed and the medication is way over-prescribed, I can’t routinely condemn it like I used to do. In D’s case, it’s been life changing.
That's pretty powerful testimony, Wildebube. Thanks for the info. I believe ADD is real, but I doubt Hairdog has it. My diagnosis of him (uniformed, flippant and unprofessional as it may be) is that he is bummed out and pissed off because his wife won't have sex with him. After years of putting up with it, he's just about had it. He is probably sometimes sarcastic or angry with his wife, for no apparent (to her) reason. He may be dismissive or disinterested in things she says or does.
He's not sick, he's just mad as hell, and not going to take it anymore. That's my free diagnosis, worth every cent you paid for it! Like NOP said, probably time for a new therapist. This one seems to have bought what Mrs. Hairdog is selling.
That's great testimony, wilde-- and bravo for going out on a limb that you weren't quite sure of in order to help your D.
HD, your comment
Quote: Thanks for all the views about ADD and whether I...hey, look at that bird!
reminds me of this terrific commercial that I love. There's a series of them about California cows... this one, the two bulls are watching a lineup of cows who are about to race, betting on who's going to win. The cows take off at a leisurely lope, and one pulls out in front, only to be instantly distracted, "Oh! Dandelions!" whereupon she saunters off for a snack. One bull says to the other, "I have to move that finish line closer."
All of those California cow commercials crack me up!
God, I love the internet! 
