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I don't want to accept a position just to hear from him later that if we were closer, we could have worked things out.



And if he said that would it really be the truth? IMHO you shouldn't worry about this happening. You are turning all the control of your life over to him. And then if he said "quit your job and we can be together" would you do that also? I think there are reasons outside him (you listed them) that you would take a job in MI. Just don't think in terms of what he might or might not do...you'll just drive yourself nuts.

In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years.
Abraham Lincoln

It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed.
Theodore Roosevelt