This is basically what I am puzzling over.

Let's take ex totally out of MY life------
Mich offers the s17 a chance to see his friends more.
Gives s8 more opportunity to see dad.
And the job market should pay better for my experience.

I may be getting nervous over the job as it could cause MOTS behavior in ex. (I know I don't know this but it still bothers me) The last 3 years, I have bounced from job to job because of him. If I was too focused on my career, he wanted me to quit and be home w/him and the k's. As soon as I did that, he complained that I wasn't working. So that is part of the reason for wondering where he stands on an R. I don't want to accept a position just to hear from him later that if we were closer, we could have worked things out. Sorry to ramble and overanalyze, this is just a fear of mine that I am trying to work through right now.

The last time we had an R talk, he made this comment: I’m not going to say that we couldn’t get back together or that we could, stranger things have happened. But now I wonder if he just said that to pacify me into ending the convo. I haven't brought it up since.

Oh, poo, I'm still being sucked up into his drama. Email from his ex! more later!
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