I think he would have talked even longer last nite if my phone hadn't started going dead. (have to keep s17 off it when I want to have these long chats!) I really think he needed to get some of this off his mind and I opened the door to that!
There was still a lot of history rewrite going on and some MLC type comments. But I handled that all in a dbing sort of way
(history rewrite) Me: Your ex says ss14 had behavior problems w/you. (truancy and bad grades) I told her that I didn't see any of that and she replies, it was after you left him. Ex: You were here the whole time. Me: I left for a month (really two!) to get back here and do some teaching! (I really had given up!) Ex: Well, you were here through most of the time and he didn't have the problems like she is saying.
(mlc comment) Ex: It would probably be much easier to just let him go. Paying support is easier than raising a teenager, I don't know what I am in for. I guess I will just be a deadbeat dad. Me: You are a great parent, and I know you couldn't do that. and besides, a deadbeat dad wouldn't even pay support and would disappear.
I did notice that we never once talked about our s8! I did send him off an email this morning (whenever we have had positive convos lately, I send him a thank you for calling, nice talking to you!)
....Oops, thinking of you this morning! I didn't get enough sleep here last night and then realized you must feel even worse! I lost all track of time while we were talking. Hang in there, ss14 will be ok through this, he's just as tough as his dad. Well, hope everything goes good at work today. Talk to you soon. T ....
Quote: Importantly, you didn't allow his X to split the 2 of you further. This will payoff big time in terms of trust.
I really have this gut feeling that that was her whole purpose for calling! Now, why would she be trying to split us apart if there was no chance of a R between ex and I? Hmmm!
