Well, ex actually called me on a Saturday morning! But, then, I did instigate this one!
Showing just a little bit of tough love w/him for now. He had called this week and wanted to send money for s8's bday, I sent him an email yesterday saying 'no'.
So he called to ask why, and I said, s wants to see you and I'm not going to pick out the presents from you. I gave him lots of time to decide what to get him and to make plans for a trip, he said yes I did, he just can't make it right now.
But then he said he would try to make it yet this month. He was pleasant during the convo, and I was able to do a lot of validating w/his job sitch. His s20, who I sent a bday card to, was there and got on the phone to say thx, and I validated w/him also. (bonus point for me!)
But then ex had to go, working on the house today???? (this is something he has put off for years, so I'm wondering if it means something since he said it about 3x. I said I have to go too.
More tough love, he asked to talk to s8, and I said no, not today. The last call upset him too much and I don't want to see him upset today, he is having a good day. I think I upset ex tho!
He didn't ask anything about my job hunt, but was showing a little concern over if we were doing ok. Still very self absorbed, but seemed to be trying to make some effort on keeping things pleasant. (I heard his voice get nervous a couple of times!)
Overall, another good convo, and I was able to keep the visit from him focused entirely on our son. (didn't pursue at all, sorry, Wes!) I'll leave the pursuing until he actually makes it here!
Of course, by the time he ever gets around to coming, we may be back in Mich! (oh, and I did get the point across to him that if he plans to come up here, he better let me know since I may have plans already!) T
