There sure was a lot of info to digest yesterday after his ex’s phone call. And I will take most of it w/a grain of salt and try to keep an open mind.
She had said that they had a big argument the night before (over his not coming to court) and I see some of his motive of being nicer to me lately as not wanting two ex’s mad at him at the same time! And that could be the reason for some little white lies to me. To spare my feelings and his guilt. (I know I am analyzing his behavior here, but trying to figure out the right approach to the sitch!)
All I keep thinking about is how much of a downward spiral ex's life is going in, (IMO!) and will anyone even be there for him later on. I am thinking it is time to let go and see if he sinks or swims!
My concern right now is over s8 and ss14’s life. I am actually considering being a foster parent (something I’ve thought about many times and just figured my life w/h was too chaotic for that) But now I am going to focus on that and see if ss could come live w/me in the near future. (after I am settled w/job and a house) He shouldn’t be that much trouble for me, I know what he has been through (i've been around him since he was 3) and I've been through the teenage rebellions 3x already! And my sons know him and would accept him easily into our family.
And since I actually see more hope in ss than I do in Ex right now, I am just focusing on him. If I get the chance at having him, ex will take a back seat to everything. He needs to take a more active role in his k's lives and that will be something I want to see from him.
When we do talk this weekend, I won't let on that I know any of this, but I will make it clear again that s8 wants a visit and leave it at that. Cut the convo short and let him deal w/his problems.
Now I just need to figure out how to make a stable environment us that could include ss. Does anyone know how to become a foster parent? I'm off to look up that info! T
