hope every1's life is going better than mine at the moment. The ex's ex finally called me back tonight and we talked for quite a while. (but we have sworn secrecy in any of this getting out)
j/k, I can't tell ex that we talked and she has promised the same, which from my end doesn't really matter if she did go back on her word and tell.
Anyways, the story is that my 14yo ss was just put into foster care. He's been misbehaving terribly for his mother and is trying everything to go back and live w/his dad(ex). He had come to live w/us for 9 months before div was filed and I didn't have any problems. But it seems that ex has filled his head full of stuff. (I didn't see all of this, but am not sure what or who to believe right now.)
She filled me in on a lot of things that have been going on recently, which either her or ex is lying about. Ex had told me she had moved up to Mich for the summer and he had the k's every other weekend. She says no, she has taken a couple of long weekends to see her mother and couldn't take the k's since ex was working too much to have them. He had also said she was having marital problems and she says no, her H is right here and can confirm this. And she said when she stopped to see ex one time, he wouldn't let her go in the house.
Ss14 isn't really a bad kid, I do know that when he was around his dad he could get away w/too much but he just keeps getting in trouble when he's w/mom. (She has 4 other kids) Ex says he would be happy to take him, but hasn't made any efforts to make the trip to go to court. His reasoning, (she says) is that it would only be him and this other person and they could handle the anger.
She couldn't remember the op's name, but is sure it is female. Said he told her something about meeting an acquantance at Walmart. And that's all he would tell her.
So, now I have to figure out how to handle this. It does seem like he may be lying to me which makes no sense unless he is trying to string me along until he sees if this person works out. Now that he may have an OW in his life, I feel more determination to move back and make him own up to it. Am I crazy or what?
I did mention to ex's ex that if we were still together, I would take the boy in for her. She is frustrated at the moment (her 3yo was diagnosed w/speech delays) and I have always been more of the disciplinarian than ex. But she just kept asking me do I really want to go back w/him after the mind games?
