I feel for your oldest S, but maybe if he understands you have to move for a job anyway?? It will suck having to start in a new high school for a single year, but it looks like that will happen whether you move back to MI or not. So maybe he can take a role in helping decide the places you are looking at. At least elicit his opinion.
I agree wholeheartedly that you can not move solely for your ex's sake. He hasn't shown enough signs of life. He hasn't made the efforts that would tell you there is a step in the right direction.
Good job on the job interviews and keeping your PMA up. I'm sure these people are seeing the person you are. After all your efforts you have to look like a strong person.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
