Youe ex is making a lot of statements ("why did we div"?) and making contact with your parents (that's huge!) that indicates there is a lot of hope there. Perhaps a softer approach with him would be desirable. You see, unless he is having second thoughts about what he has done, what other motivation can he have to be doing these things?
UD
The 3 laws of DBing:
1. PMA is critical to DBing.
2. Since drop in WAW's PMA leads to drop in LBS's PMA and vice-versa detachment is critical.
3. Validate to raise WAW's PMA and GAL to raise LBS's.
