Quote: Great news on the jobs. TY! I am excited and at the point where I have to start being selective. (Just don't want to dismiss the ONE)
"I want H to take an active interest in and visit his son". H wants to 'talk' to our s every weekend and I am going to end that unless s wants to talk. w/disability factors, it just upsets s8 to talk on the phone.
Now there are possibly other factors involved...maybe he has no money to make the trip or time off from work. these are the excuses I hear right now, but they just sound like excuses. I did mention that WE are meeting my parents to get the truck, so if he really wanted to see s8 he could have been the one to meet us!
I never got the pressure you are trying to apply from my ex. She knew I wanted to see them and left me alone about it. Of course I made it clear I missed them and wanted to see them...something I don't sense from your ex. He is still in selfish mode. I don't think any kind of "guilt trip" is going to help. I've seen him make the trip to see his other k's when their mom put pressure on him. but it sure wasn't comfortable for him. She would call constantly saying they were acting up, and he had to come straighten them out!
For awhile you might have to accept that your ex is also a walk-away dad. That's it exactly!
About the convos. I think you are right. For now you probably should just listen and not talk about yourself and your achievements unless he asks. I should have switched gears when I called him the other night, but will use the things he said for the next convo! Trying to learn as I go!
