I tell you, all of the things that your XH does, my WAW does to me. 1. MLCers are very insecure about themselves and will only talk about themselves. In fact, my W will be silent and look down at the floor if I tell her anything positive that happened to me. This is typical of MLCers. They don't want to see you in a positive light (yet) because it makes them feel guilty. Remember, when they left, they made up this image of you as being totally inept and incapable of things. Well, everytime we take charge of our lives and advance after they leave that false image is negated. You keep doing what you are doing and dont expect (overt) approbation from him. remember, this is a power game. His telling about all the things he "knows" about the companies etc is his way of trying to get the power back (see, i know more than you kind of thing) when deep down he knows he is losing it. 2." He may feel threatened again by my progress. Or it may just be his way, he's done this for years. He is acting like the rebellious teenager that knows everything!" - Hey, he is eating pie, its no longer the weak, can-do-no-good dejavu that he invented to justify his leaving. Keep showing him the new dejavu and in good time he will respect you (more importantly you will respect yourself more). 3. "I really don't know how to db around him anymore." - what do you mean, you are doing great!!!! You are doing 180's, acting confident, GAL, taking charge of your own happiness. You are doing awesome!! Stay positive. 4. "It's hard to keep validating someone when they don't care about your feelings." - MLCers and WAWs are hurt puppies, they are so self-absorbed and self-centered. Let him be...you get better.
I wish you so much success in your job hunt. You deserve it.
UD
The 3 laws of DBing:
1. PMA is critical to DBing.
2. Since drop in WAW's PMA leads to drop in LBS's PMA and vice-versa detachment is critical.
3. Validate to raise WAW's PMA and GAL to raise LBS's.
