My feeling and only my feeling and will generate disagreement, is to NOT acknowledge the anniversary. The anniversary in my mind was an important, significant date during the R, but since the R is not the same, the dates do not have the current significance.
Last Nov on what would have been our 12th, 4 days after final D, I made no mention of the date, nor did she.
Your hope is there will be a new date of significance in the future.
