You are doing an incredible job handling things. You are truly a strong woman. Hats off to you.
I feel for you regarding S8. He needs his dad. I am amazed that his dad does not feel this coming from S8. I dont know how these WASs live with themselves. I often wonder if my WAW has gone insane. The truth is they are so lost internally (spiritually) they dont know [censored] from shampoo. My personal take, dejavu, is not to compromise with your WAH on the S8 issue. While you are handling your GAL and finding a job and gettign your life back on track aspects admirably, I am concerned, like Wes is, that you are letting WAH get away scott-free as far as his responsibilities to S8 are concerned. I know you are trying to DB and not placing guilt on him etc. to try to build a new R. But in the meantime, it seems like your S8 is in pain and your WAH is not listening. Dejavu, I would like to help if I can in your string out this issue. Wes and gabriel can also help you formulate something in this regard. Could you think about this issue of how to get your WAH to accept his responsibility towards your S9 without hurting your DBing efforts (i.e. without undue pressure, or imposing guilt). This is again in connection with what you wrote on my thread. I see that you are wrestling with that issue as well. But maybe you can try to flesh out this aspect a little and deliberate on it. gabriel's advice is always sound (you can enlist him explicitly on this) and I and others can chip in with our views as well.
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The 3 laws of DBing:
1. PMA is critical to DBing.
2. Since drop in WAW's PMA leads to drop in LBS's PMA and vice-versa detachment is critical.
3. Validate to raise WAW's PMA and GAL to raise LBS's.
