You are doing okay. It is not so much that you should not call. This is almost impossible if you have kids in the picture. But when you call you maintain PMA and focus on dealing with the kids. And you did well. You are slowly getting to a higher plane of PMA and self-assurance here and I hope you continue along those lines. The idea is not to let your XH have power/control over you and not to let negative energy build up in your interactions.
Note that his urgency to get away from the phone appears to come when he feels pressed, i.e. when the issue of his having goofed up with your S's birthday came up or when his being behind on your S17's truck came up. This is just a way for a man under intense internal stress to deal with a stressful moment (i.e. need to get away). But, that is his problem, not yours. You just need to stay calm and positive.
You are doing great with all the stuff that is going on in your life.
How is yourjob search going?
UD
The 3 laws of DBing:
1. PMA is critical to DBing.
2. Since drop in WAW's PMA leads to drop in LBS's PMA and vice-versa detachment is critical.
3. Validate to raise WAW's PMA and GAL to raise LBS's.
