Had a reply to your post, UD and s8 bumped me off the comp. I really need to get his system back on the internet!
Quote: But if you are doing it to detach and put yourself back together, it may not be a bad idea altogether.
This is an excellent way to state it. I am not really trying to be dark w/ex, it has been his choice to limit the contact. Once he moves into a measure of relating to me that fits into some form of respect to me as a 'person' (no yelling at me in emails or on phone, giving us more than one chance in a week to talk to him) I will show him appreciation for that effort.
I did a major dbing effort towards the end of the div. From Oct 04 to Mar 05. Ex even commented a few times how positive the changes were, but then would state that he didn't believe they would last. Those are good memories for me and I think the effect of them will continue as I make more positive GAL changes.
I chose not to answer the email since 1. it was during the weekend; 2. was argumentative; and 3. implied pressure to talk on phone to discuss s8. As soon as I can put together another nice friendly letter (w/NO pressure) I will reply. And maybe I should state something about his anger/sarcasm in it?
If I look at this being a MLC; he may just need some space and I'm going to step back and allow that. I'll keep you posted! T
