Had a nice long breakfast with Gonna Be Okay while in the Bay Area last weekend. She says hi to all, promises she will post an update sometime. She looks good, is dating a really nice guy. Her H, meanwhile, is pulling a lot of the usual divorce craziness - doesn't want to pay what he will have to pay (California is a pretty cut-and-dried no-fault community property state - child support is by formula, property is split, and spousal support is pretty standard for a long marriage with a long-time SAHM.)
He is sending her lists of mutual belongings that include items she owned before the marriage that are family heirlooms of no financial worth at all, listing furniture a friend lent to her after he moved out to replace furniture he took, etc. And the kids report that they hear him and OW fighting at night in the kitchen after they go to bed. Anyone want to take bets that he'll drag out the divorce in order to avoid marrying the OW?
GBO's in a good place, though, able to step back from his craziness and still see the depression underneath it all. Meanwhile enjoying her new life with a nice guy who ISN'T depressed, no walking on eggshells with him. At peace that she did everything she could to try to save her marriage. And leaving everything else in the hands of her very capable divorce attorney.
Afterwards I went to Berkeley to visit with S18 for parents weekend. Is it a good sign that he really wasn't all that anxious to see us??? At least I know he's not homesick or lonely!
We went to the movies with him to see Serenity - what a hoot! Think back to the first time you saw Star Wars - only funnier, with better dialogue and acting. Definitely a must-see.
S18 is still his goofy self (I think H thought he would be miraculously matured in a month!) but seems to be doing okay, that's all I ask at this point.
