Martha has a lot of good suggestions, though I'm not sure any of them has the same kind of upside as a winning lotto ticket.
This sounds like a guy with something of a MLC going on. He's going to get in on the Baja land rush (about 25 years after it started, no?). He's going to make dreams come true, even after agreeing that it's not reasonable. (That is disturbing.) It sounds like you've discussed the college expenses and he sees them as simply "in the way" of getting what he wants. I mean, he does see them, right? Does he agree this is unreasonable right now, or does he say the words that will get him out of the convo?
Does H "do" R stuff? How did you get to be Piecing? What were the "techniques" that worked when you were getting him back to the M?
Quote: He wants quality time with me, he wants to be free of laundry and cooking and shopping and cleaning, he wants the kids completely supervised and happy, and he wants me to be bringing in the big bucks!
Except for the quality time (she wanted it, but with someone else), that could describe STBXW's attitude toward me.
You've gotten through to him before. What were you doing then? What is different now?
Thanks,
K
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