Ellie, just my two cents. I had the same accountant/spendthrift dynamic in my M. I gave up the bill-paying and budgeting and XH was supposed to do it. In three months, every account was past due and guess who the accountancy passed to? Yepperoni! Me.
I think this was part of his larger "sabotage" plan -- that is, if you are a failure at something no one asks you to do it again.
So think thru the money job -- or ways you could share it...?
