Valentine's Day Massacre - Our Lips Are Sealed

[Underdog]

Ellie,

I don't trust him not to spin out of emotional control again at some point.

While I can certainly understand your fear here, is it possible that you're outwardly showing signs that he can see and read that seem to be encouraging him to force a hand he understands isn't going to work?

I know you mentioned that you've calmly shared your POV with him and he's seemingly unwilling to take your position into consideration. (Yes, there is something really disconcerting about his saying he heard you and agrees with you but is going to do it anyway...)

Why do you suppose he's choosing to engage you in a dynamic which didn't work in the past?

If you could cut to the chase and take a guess at the outcome he really wants, what would that be?

What was different when you did trust him, Ellie? Or have you not fully been able to get there yet?

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