Hi Ellie- You've stopped by my thread over in MLC forum and this is the first that I've actually seen your whole summary. I have to say that I am jealous with how quickly your H moved through the OW phase.
Question for you- did you just let your H initiate any R or OW talk? I've been dealing with the on-again, off-again OW situation since Nov 2003 and have not brought up the topic since March of 2004. H did confess in July 2004 that he had been seeing her "casually" after his confession in February 2004. And then he seemed to stop but I had suspicions until November 2004. I've seen some questionable behaviour in the last two months that worries me that there is something up again. (you are right, my sitch is a lot like Deb's and I wonder whether I need to lay down the law also)
I really think that at some point we need to talk about our R (I don't need to hear much about OW) in order to progress forward. He is a chronic confrontation avoider so I worry that waiting for him will never happen.
Thanks for continuing to post and offer guidance. It really helps!
