But you'd think if he's that afraid of losing his kids, he wouldn't be putting his hands on me and locking me in the laundry room?
That calls for an assumption of mind. Overruled. Next question.
I wish I knew the answers for you. I see your anger and resentment, and I know that colors with rationale or even sabotages your thinking and interactions with him, and you already know what a destructive force he's being out of hurt and wanting control. It's like you two are scrambling at anything except what works, whatever that may be.
Have you answered the basic question, "is this a relationship I really want to save"? It doesn't sound like you really like the person your H is. What is it that you want in a relationship, and do you think you were ever realistically on target for it with him?
