Anna~ I think you're right, there is some gender reveral here. I think I had some difficulty bonding with S4 when he was born because I only took two weeks off from work after I had him and I wasn't emotionally or physically ready to go back to work. So, with H being a night owl I relied on him a great deal at night to help S through his fussy times and my shift came in around 3am. So, they bonded a lot when S was a baby. And, as S got older, H would buy toys for him that H had always wanted as a boy, etc. Things I couldn't relate to easily and I didn't try hard enough. So, the last couple years, H and S have all these things that they play together and I could not get my foot in the door so to speak. Daddy knew everything, had to do everything. When I had D, I knew I was a good mom and I took 3 months off from work and just focused on being mommy. It changed my outlook on myself as a mother, for sure.
Anna, picture two things for me and give me your opinion.
1. If your H had told you before separation how he felt, what would you have done differently, anything? Or would you just have thought he was being silly?
2. If, after discussing his feelings of being left out with you, all of a sudden he just dove in head first to being a parent and at times all of a sudden your children started to prefer him to do certain things for them, how threatened would you haven been/be?
Thanks!!
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