I can see what you are saying about each of us wanting control. But I am not trying to gain control here Mollie, only trying to hold onto what I had. H and I get into an argument about something one day that indirectly relates to taking the children to daycare and the next thing I know, I'm not taking them anymore. No discussion. When H and I were getting along, I dropped off at daycare, he picked up. Everywhere we went, we went as a family so there was no disputes over who was riding with who and all that nonsense. I never tried to take the kids anywhere by myself until H and I weren't getting along so well and H refused to ride in my vehicle. It wasn't until this past year that I've discovered with no uncertainty what is and isn't "allowed" for me at my house, rules which are held for me alone.
Quote: Of course you hate him because he is being an a$$ because you want all the control of the kids and he would like to make a decision about them sometimes.
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Quote: I've had that same convo with each of my husbands
I think you're projecting a little of your own situation into mine. Would you agree?
Quote: Please try to let go a little Heather
I'm trying.
Quote: This really is a little thing
Most dynamics in a R are little when you pick them apart. No one thing is worth leaving over, in general. But when you start putting them together, that's where the big picture comes in and a person's true personality comes to light.
Quote: There could be something special about each of you taking them. You could each do something during the ride that makes it fun for the kids.
This is so true. In a normal setting, this would be perfectly healthy. If it's about choices, truly about choices, why would H not allow me to take S4 to the beach with us when he chose to go? That was my test, my test to see if H is genuine as you suggest. He didn't pass.
"Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."
