Heather,

Has anyone pointed you at Calystra's threads? Sort of similar sitch but her h was on the D train bigtime...she was wildly successful DB'ing.

If you've got some time on your hands:

Cal's threads (read from the beginning)

Sage

Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.