I'm having second thoughts about initiating any kind of discussion with H. I'm going to quote myself here:
Quote: I'll break the silence, I always do.
Detect some resentment there?? After I re-read my post, I sure did. It's because no one likes to be given the silent treatment. I see it as flat out controlling and manipulative on H's behalf. NY has said something on a couple of different occasions, something like 'if you initiate a D, then you're probably going to end up divorced'. Well, I would like to set a boundary for myself in this R with H that if you initiate the silent treatment, expect the silent treatment until such time as you break it! Please tell me if I'm just being stubborn here. Maybe I'm just copping out, maybe I'm just going in circles with "more of the same". But I don't like to be given the silent treatment. I think it's unhealthy and I think it's immature. So why would I encourage it? Because initiating a discussion after H has began silent treatment would be encouraging it for next time would it not? It's like Pavlov's dog "she'll come drooling evenutally, she has every other time in the past". Does that make sense? While I DO want my H back, I do NOT want the same R back. I do not want to be in a R where H ignores me every time I do something he doesn't like. I mean, I can see needing space for a couple hours or even a day or two. But it's been over a freaking week. Thoughts?
"Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."
