Gosh, the very possibility that this dynamic is evident in other relationships is so scary. Because it seems that M is never 50/50 the way it's promised to be. It's like 75/25 b/c when one SP gives 75, the other somehow someway feels that they don't have to give as much. Then the SP giving 75 backs off and the other SP soon thereafter picks up the slack and brings their contribution up to 75. Frightening b/c it just eludes to the idea that we ALWAYS want what we don't have. And when we have it we take it for granted. It's like, human nature or something. Even here on this board, it's rampant. Like Ok, the other SP is responding, should I back off? Why can't we all just give 100%......I know I should have asked myself that same question a year ago before I committed an irreversible act. Now I'm preaching to the choir! Oh well guys, as long as we see the light now, we can change the future and that's all we can ask for right?
"Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."
