How to GAL when SP is jealous/trust is broken??

[heatherg]

Right. So with all this being said, assuming a discussion is the route I'm going to take, how do I handle the fact that we haven't spoken in over a week? Do I just assume he's had enough space and it's time to initiate a discussion about it?
So, let's say I initiate a discussion about it. There will be two paths at that point. He will either be responsive, or he won't.
If he's responsive, meaning he doesn't glare me into the floor or wave his hand at me or perform some other form of rejection,

"I think we both made some mistakes when we got into each other's accounts."

I'm hestitant to imply he did something wrong as well b/c being responsive is a great first step for him and I don't want to immediately turn him off.
So, WTBS, do my reasons matter? Should I talk at all about WHY I deleted them? Or should the conversation be all about his feelings and me validating them?
My fear is that if I intend the conversation to be about his feelings, there won't be a conversation b/c he doesn't talk that feely about how he feels.
Also, if he rejects the conversation, what do I say? Anything?
How about "You don't have to say anything if you don't want to although hearing how you feel was the primary reason for the discussion. But either way, I'd like you to know XXX"

Or do I just say "It's clear you don't want to talk about this, if at any point you change your mind, I'm completely open to it".

The first scenario at least assures that SOMETHING gets said. B/c you have to understand my H can avoid really, really well. So if I don't say anything, nothing may ever get said.

The second scenario would be sort of a 180 for me. Me saying, ok you're not biting, neither am I. This is about how you feel, not about how I feel and I'm not going to turn it into something about how I feel just b/c you won't tell me how you feel.


PHEW!! This is so crazy at times and feels so much like back in high school. But it I don't have a course of action, emotions will certainly take over. I don't want that, so this is my alternative I guess!