The emails were in his account, but he got them from MY account. I gave him the password to my email account a year ago so that he could read the emails and then without asking my permission or even telling me, he forwarded copies of them to his email account. A couple of months later, he gave me the password to his email account for reasons that are another story (pornography issues). When I entered his account, I saw he had copies of my emails. I didn't immediately delete them, in fact I didn't say anything to him about it and let it go for the most part. But when I signed divorce papers in February and it was starting to become clear that we were not going to remain together, it made a whole lot of sense to me to delete them for a multitude of reasons. He just didn't notice they were gone until three days before we WOULD have been in court if I would not have postponed/cancelled it (June 7). That's what makes me pretty sure he kept the emails to use against me. When he confronted me about it, he said "way to restablish the trust Heather" all I said was "I let you read those emails to be open and honest with you about everything, but I never said you could take anything". He asked me to send them back to him and I told him I no longer had them, which is entirely true. There was just dead silence on the other end for at least 1 minute, which can seem like forever. I even had to take the phone off my ear and look at it to make sure it still said "connected"....then he said "f@@k you" and he hung up on me. He did not ask when I deleted them, nor did I offer that information. Do you think it's important that I tell him I deleted them 3 months ago?? I don't think he's upset that I was in his email account b/c months ago, I very bluntly told him something was bothering me (I never told him what) and I wanted the password to his account. He gave it without a second thought. So he knew I would be entering his account at some point. It seems he thinks I took something that belonged to him.....but they weren't his, they were mine. Am I right on that? I think that's a very important point. They weren't his just because they were in his account. Taking a little extreme, stolen property is still stolen even if it now resides in your living room.
"Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."
