While I have not read any of your thread I did nothice on another thread you mentioned that H was livid that you had deleted the emails between you and OP and you were trying to understand why the anger. For me, I have a stack of emails between H and ow but I have only read a couple of them and have them locked away in a place that would take me several hours to get to. I have not read them because I do not want to become hardened to them and what they say. If I read them over and over again I know that eventually the shock and hurt of those emails would gradully ease......and I don't want that. If H was to come home those emails would never see the light of day.....but if we continue on the path to D that we are now headed on I will read those emails to help stiffen my backbone during the D process so I don't just cave in to H's demands.
Maybe your H is so mad about you deleting them because in his own way he was trying to process through his hurt and betrayal....on the other hand he could be furious because he planned on using them against you....I don't know, just a thought.
