How to GAL when SP is jealous/trust is broken??

[heatherg]

It's Friday and with the weekend coming, it might be a good time for me to do some opening up to H. He isn't speaking to me, but I probably need to do some speaking to him.
I think I'd like to tell him some things that I feel that I haven't told him before. This would probably be a 180 for me. I think up until now, I've apologized for what I did but I think I've also spent way too much time talking about what led up to it and how I was feeling at the time. As if that would give H some insight into why I did it. H has told me he needs me to be SORRY first and then we'll see about working on other issues in the future. I've struggled with how to be sorry TO someone. But maybe the first step is just opening my wound again. Letting it bleed. It's so hard because I want it to heal. I want to feel better. But that's just selfish isn't it?? I should be concerned with H's healing and my M healing, not myself. I just don't want him to think I'm only saying things to get him to give me another chance.
It's pretty hard to detach and be sorry at the same time.

NY, I could really use your advice on that one because you seem pretty good at detaching. B/c for my own sanity, I need to detach and stop taking everything so personally. But detaching, to me, feels a little cold and it seems that being sorry needs to be really, really warm. I don't know how to balance that.

Thanks for listening...