Quote: Add to that the fact that I have been a fighter/yeller and once I get it out I can usually feel better. Two totally different styles and both of us would have been so much better off had we learned to communicate somewhere between those two extremes
Hi Heather
I know what you mean about you and H having completely different styles of dealing with situations. H and I are complete opposites in the way we deal with emotional stress. I yell/shout. H is quiet and ignores things. Since the 'bomb' I began to work on myself and the way I deal with stressful situations and have found myself in a better place. Working on making my reactions fall in between the two extremes have made everything a lot easier. I still have a long way to go.
You mentioned that once it's off your chest, you feel a lot better. I used to feel that way. One of the things though, that I have painfully come to realise is that the person I am yelling at probably feels like sh@t. Since this is the last thing I want, I am having to reconsider how I ought to respond to situations.
Quote: it may be too late
It's never too late to start establishing good relations and who knows what that may lead to. If nothing else, you will find yourself feeling better. Take care
