How to GAL when SP is jealous/trust is broken??

[heatherg]

I have a small thread in the newcomers section that hasn't gotten too much response-For Newcomers/What to do?
I'm trying to find my niche on the BBs and I decided that my thread should probably reside here in this forum.
I'm looking for ideas and/or advice on GAL when the spouse is controlling and jealous? Should that have any effect on my decisions or should I act "as if"? I'm confused on these two issues:

1. Think about what you're going to do. Will it bring your closer or farther from your goal?
Doing things outside of the home tend to take me farther away from my goal.

2. GAL
Maybe because I have broken the trust in my M, GAL doesn't really apply to me in the same way it does to the people who've been betrayed?

Thanks!