Waltz in there (by the way, my advice is to 'waltz in' or 'waltz out' WHEREVER you are ) knowing that you are the sexiest woman in the joint, and that your H won't be able to keep his eyes off you. Flirt with him (just to keep him smiling) but don't cling or act needy. Why would you need to? After all, you are the sexiest woman in the joint.
Remember to look on the poor receptionist with pity. After all, rumour has it she's resorted to trying to steal other women's husbands, but can't even do that right. Poor pathetic thing! Oh, don't waste time talking to her, but do shoot her pitying glances. After all, she's sulking in the corner wishing SHE was the sexiest woman in the joint. And we all know who THAT is!
Talk and laugh with all your H's colleagues. They're nuts about you and H is always so proud of the way you get along with everyone. Catch his eye across the room and wink. Make sure that wink promises some sexy post-tournament fun.
Have a blast. You look forward to this every year, and isnt' it great that you and your H have something fun to share.
Oh, and the sad little receptionist? Oops... I think she left early. I wonder what that was about?
Hi Golferpro - Hope you are out having a great time at the company golf event
Anna - Can I hire you as my "life coach" - ha, ha - What a great "Act as if" scenario. I am going to use it for my H's work functions - awesome
SP
According to the Buddha, praise and blame, gain and loss, pleasure and sorrow may "come and go like the wind," but happiness comes if you can "rest like a great tree in the midst of them all."
Thank you so much for your advice. I will be waltzing around all day tomorrow - acting "as if". You are right I am going to be the sexist woman at the outting - at least to my H and that's what counts! I will spend time chatting with his co-workers, etc. I do get along with them all very well. And in the past my H has always told me he is very proud of me, my accomplishments and how I carry myself at these get togethers.
I really appreciate this advice it is going to definitley steer me in the right direction!!!
I'm now really looking forward to this event!!! I'm in charge here and I need to portray the condifent, outgoing fun loving person that my H has always loved.
THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!
P.S. I also look forward to getting in a few PITY glances!
The outting went well. I had a nice time talking with my H's co-workers. A few times I did feel a little akward and I had a funny feeling almost butterflies in my stomach. But it was nice to finally see OW again - I have so much MORE class than she does. Anyway - I at lunch I waltzed around and chatted with people and had a great time, introduced myself to those I didn't know etc. I basically ignored her. At one point we were getting ready to head out to the carts and My H asked me a question about something, as he did I turned back and looked at her. I gave her a pity look, my H saw it. He thought it was a dirtly look. H said - what was that for. I said nothing. H said - lets not play those games I wouldn't want one of the other coworkers to see that look because it make you (meaning me) look bad. That was it. We then headed to the carts and he said to one of the ladies taking pictures of the outting that I was the "best looking lady on the course", made me feel good. She then took and picture of H and I. After that I said have fun and I left with my group and so did he. We met up at the end of the day - about 5 hours later and had a good time. On the way home the group the OW rode with to the outting kept calling my H's cell phone, I was wondering did she put the caller up to it. He finally quit answering.
On Saturday we had a fund raiser outting that H and I golfed in together - he signed us up for this one. We golfed with some friends of ours. We had a great time. H even said I'm getting pretty good and he enjoys golfing with me - I have come along way.
Saturday night around 1am (in the morning) we are in bed sleeping - went to bed early like 10pm. Anyway at 1am my cell phone rings. I'm have asleep and H asks who it is. I look at the number and say my work. I answer and they hang up. Anyway I then wake up a little and look at the number it is the OW's old home number. I know this because back in January I had all her numbers memorized. So I say to H
Me - I know who's # is was H - who's Me - it is her old home number, where her soon to be ex is still living H - no way Me - yes back in January when all this was really going on I had all her numbers memorized H - are you sure Me - yes I will show you in the phone book (and I do) H - (looks at phone book) I'm pissed why would she call you? me - I don't know because your phone is off H - I can't beleive this she has no reason to call you and she would not do anything to come between us (me thinking yeah right but don't say anything Me - oh well it's late and I know this is not your fault lets go back to sleep H - it just pisses me off, I don't get it
Anyway we go to bed.
We don't talk about it in the morning - I mean I know it is not his fault.
Later on Sunday around noon H says that the OW called and he pushed it into voice mail (VM). He said she wanted to know if he got some paper work from the other office at the outting on Friday that she needed Monday morning.
I asked H did you call her back. H says - no I left it on her desk Friday night when we got back she can come in and get it on Monday.
I say ok.
About 3 hours go by, I'm playing with our kids, H is relaxing - it is father's day. Then H and I leave for dinner. On the way H says
H - She called again about the paperwork Me - did you call her back h - no I took the call because I was still pissed about the call to your phone last night and I wanted to ask about it (Ihope this is the truth) me - and H - I told her it is on her desk and then I asked why are you calling my W's phone at 1am in the morning? and he said she said OW - I did not call it must be my soon to be ex. He is going thru my cell phone bill calling all the #'s he does nto recoginze to see if he can find something on me (Iguess there court date for their divrce is coming up) H - oh Ow - It's true and I will ask him about this he has called many of the other people that I talk with that he did not know the nubmers to. Me - I could give her ex something to go on (I know I should not have said that) H - and you want to bring me into this Me - no, never mind
That was basically the end of that conversation. I don't know if I beleive her and I told H that. I don't think I have ever called her cell phone so I don't think her soon to be ex could get my cell # off her bill. I also know she has never called me from her cell phone. I told H this. I also told him that she could get it from their caller id at the office when I have called. He said there old phones don't have caller id. Maybe I did call her a long time ago, I just do not remember calling her from my cell. I did call once a long time ago, but from our home phone. Oh well. I think she is lying. My H seemed very frustrated when I brought this up about not calling her from my cell etc. He almost got mad, I think the whole thing is making him mad. But he calmed down and said he wants me, not her, he is with me, not her, he has not called her in a long time. He is not taking her calls, etc. If this is the case this is new in the last 3 to 4 weeks and I think it might be true. I did ask then
Me - is she still calling you H - I am not taking her calls Me - I guess it just bothered me that she continues to call H - it is only for work (I'm thinking they why are you not taking the calls - I think this is his way of somewhat covering to make me feel ok) H - again part of the reason she called was my fault because I took the calls, I am not doing that anymore. Me - ok it just was really hard for me H - I understand and I'm not taking them I want you and only you
I know this was really long - but this was my weekend. I do think she called from that number - I don't think she liked seeing H and I at the outting together. I also bet she was calling just to talk on Sunday and H covered that up a little but told me she called and that he took the call because he wanted to confront her on the call to my cell. I don't think he would have taken the call if there wasn't a call to my cell the night before. I do think things are moving in the right direction at least it seems that way, but why do I still get a shakey feeling sometimes, how do I rebuild trust so I can feel comfortable and good again about trust....???
Thanks for listening and any advice would be appreciated on trust or your thoughts on the cell phone call at 1am...
) knowing that you are the sexiest woman in the joint, and that your H won't be able to keep his eyes off you. Flirt with him (just to keep him smiling) but don't cling or act needy. Why would you need to? After all, you are the sexiest woman in the joint.
